Growth starts with awareness of what behaviors we unconsciously brought with us from the past. It’s only when we are aware of the root of a behavior that we can change it. Reconnecting with our inner child to liberate ourselves from the weight of childhood insecurities and conditioning, is one of the fundamental pillars of inner peace.
Reparenting the younger you
We all experience trauma and feelings of abandonment from childhood, even in the most functional families. It arises from anything from sibling rivalry to demanding well-meaning parents, to more severe traumas of neglect and abuse. The more viscous the more profound are the wounds that turn into unconscious acts of behaviors and reactivity.
The good news is that it’s never too late to heal these wounds.
At ConsiousLeadership we work together with our clients to meet with their inner child, understand the source of pain and insecurities, be compassionate towards them and reparent ourselves to change the foundation we build on in adult life.
The only way is through
We instinctively run away from healing our wounded self as it’s hurtful to re-live the anger, sadness and insecurities that was experienced in our youth. When the related feelings arise we either fall into emotional overreaction often involving blaming and judgement towards others, or we put on a mask to prove to ourselves and our surroundings that we are strong. But the wounds will be there until we recognize and take ownership of them, and when we do, we start releasing the stuck energy and the process to heal.
The wounded child, like any child, is asking for care and love, but we do the opposite. We ignore it. We escape it. The holy grail of self development lies in starting to reconnect with our younger self and treat ourselves like we would treat any child, with understanding and compassion.
Sometimes we unconsciously reject the process of healing because our wounds have become definition to our identity, we don’t know who we are without it. Who are we if we can’t blame the past? Can we deal with the ‘work’ and acceptance that needs to be put in to create change? The feelings that will emerge? We need to get to a point where we understand that the cost of staying the same is much higher than the payoff of keeping things as they are.
Stay with the feeling, its worth it!
We need to accept suffering as a necessary step to healing. Commitment is required to start feeling our emotions, even if they are shameful and hurtful. When we stay with an emotion instead of bursting into reactive mode, it goes from suppressed to active, and that’s when we can start shedding and reshaping it.
The gift of recovering our inner child is not only empowerment and enhanced emotional intelligence, we also meet and regain our more childlike qualities of trust, genuinity, spontaneity and aliveness!
At consciousleadership we handhold you on a journey back to your childhood, we revisit your relationship to love, where you lacked recognition, where your needs were not met. And we enable you to reparent yourself into a more self confident and non-reactive life.
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